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We welcome your thoughts. I love my husband, but when it comes to sex, he has been, and still is, a year-old boy. At first I was a willing participant, but after years of his moping, cajoling, screaming, and disrespect, I lost interest. Finally, several years ago, I decided to keep the relationship and family intact by agreeing to sex once a week.
I had no family support, no money, a lack of self-esteem, and young children. But on this one thing we cannot agree.
He does not take testosterone or engage in porn; he just wants sex with me. Do I continue to close my eyes and endure that 30 minutes once a week to enjoy the other 99 percent of my life? Read about this arrangement here, originally from my book The Bitch is Back and reprinted in NextTribe. But that practice might apply more widely to younger couples.
A survey reported in AARP a few years ago showed that of 8, people aged 50 or older, a full third in relationships reported rarely or never having sex; another almost-third—28 percent—said they do it only a couple of times a month, and eight percent once a month. Only 31 percent of these couples said they have sex several times a week. Who knew? Actually, a lot of us. Okay, though, not that funny. How many hundred have you seen lately for Cialis and Viagra? Still, supposedly, sex is still good for us. It supposedly strengthens our vaginal walls, supposedly burns lots of calories really?
Maybe in our 20s, when we were into stuff like Reverse Cowgirl, but …and supposedly releases oxytocin, a hormone that makes us feel bonded. I say supposedly because, as no doctor, I can tell you only what I hear, read, and experience myself. Which brings us to you, SOI. VERY big! And feeling like you have no control over sex, even in your marriage, is not okay. You love the guy otherwise, and you also like your life with the benefits that come with being married. I get it. The only solution here is to talk to this man.
Tell him you need to have a conversation about something important to you, and set up a time. When that time comes, put on some makeup or whatever, at least get out of sweatspour you each a drink, and approach him with a smile. Then tell him you love him and your life with him, but you need to discuss your sex life. If he wants to keep doing it, he has to understand your needs, too, because sex is about two people.
Not just him.
Reiterate that you love him and want to stay married, but you need to find other ways to satisfy his desires without you feeling trapped, uncomfortable, and unhappy. If he refuses to listen? Tell him intimacy between you is over until he does. Though if he is, a few weeks of internet dating as a selfish, long-married something should enlighten him about that.
Why he would even want that is beyond me. Does Playboy even still exist? NextTribe editor Jeannie Ralston suggests the Starz series Outlander— specifically, season 1, episode 7—to get you in the mood. Though really, she says, almost any episode of this broiling hot series should do the trick. Forgive me for getting graphic, but here are some other things you can suggest in lieu. You lie naked with him while he gets himself off. For more tips, go online or to a bookstore and find a manual of sex tips for couples over Empty Nest, Empty Marriage? To Dump or Not?
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How did this happen?. After 25 years of marriage and four children, Katrina Anne Willis left her husband to be with a woman. Have been married over 40 years now and no sex for the last 10 years. She has medical problems. Has had problems all her life. I could still have sex 3 or 4 times a week if things were different. Anyhow I figured my sexual urges are my problem and I needed to find a solution.
So I bought a sex doll. You would think I killed someone! So I put up the doll. She caught me watching porn. That was almost as bad. I respected her decision to not have sex anymore, why does she expect me to never have sex again?
Sexual pain is more common for women than many men know. And a lot of doctors tell women to have a glass of wine, grit your teeth and endure it. Early on I learned it was mostly about what he wanted. My preferences were never particularly important. That was the mantra for 18 years. No desire by him to research and see what that did to me physically.
Just still the marital requirement of 3 x a week. Work a full time job, keep the house, cook all the meals, care for the kids, run all the errands. Can you see how this just became one more thing required of me. ONe more job to perform? After 18 years of marriage he had an affair with someone 19 years younger than me. With intense marriage counseling, we survived that episode.
He has learned a little. We now have sex 1 time a week. But I am finally at a point in life where I can start dealing with the trauma of being molested by 8 men growing up. I love my husband, other than the trauma of feeling raped once a week, we have a decent relationship.
Been married for 24 years now. Now that we are getting older, he is wanting to take testosterone suppliments so his muscles will get bigger. Not because his count is low, but because he is aging naturally and his muscles are more wiry and not as large as they used to be. This causes me so much anxiety. I cry every week. But how to reconcile that sex feels like rape after being told I gotta have it 3 x a week for 18 years and all our history.
Sex makes me want to sob. I have no answers. And sensate exercises? He told the therapist 5 years ago it took too long. Needless to say we never did it and there is still no ease in me accepting his touch. I have no answers only pain and despair.
Married for 15 years and sex pretty much dwindled the instant we had the ceremony. She even refused sex on our wedding night. There was the heady few months when we were making a family but after that nothing. Totally sexless for 2 years now. But my dear wife is always too tired or stressed for sex. That made her very sad and made me feel terrible I said it — though it was true. She made me feel like a sex crazed maniac with her shocked distaste.
I have a very strong sex drive and she appears to have none. I love my family too much to ever let this break up the marriage. No two people are exactly alike and thank God for that, what boring creatures we would be if we were all alike. A sexless marriage is a good indication that something may be out of balance somewhere in the relationship. You get what you give rings so real in every type of relationship in life, whether in friendship or any type of partnership.
One should never expect to get more than they are willing to give and vise versa. The key is to find the place or thing where both are happy and comfortable. That is where you will find true satisfaction together. Giving up before trying everything is stupid and not how true love works. If you truly love someone nothing should make you become a quitter.
If you stop trying to find the balance that works for you both then maybe the love was never going to be enough to take a chance on, to begin with. A person who is capable of knowing true love will never give up on the one they love. Only he can decide that. Just know that. When my husband and I first got together, we were both thin, younger, and had a lot in common. We had great hot sex regularly. But, then, he allowed himself to be in a position where cheating could happen and did.
It took a long time and effort on my part to get over it. It was never great again. For one, my libido lowered and he gained over pounds.
But three I found him cheating again. If he was honest from the start we may have found a better way for both of us.Looking for someone to fuck my wife
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Help! I Don’t Want to Have Sex With My Husband